Thank you FlySolo and paco. It's the moving forward into D land conversation that has me riled up. I'm aware of it, but I'm still just so emotionally achy this week. I feel like my body is trying to reject this idea. "Divorce?!? Yail and W??? NEVER!!!" I've been needing to vent, so I come here. Sorry you guys get the brunt of it
I said this to folks in my personal life, but it's true. I am so incredibly grateful for my job right now. I've had some "eh" jobs in the past with really bad support networks that just sucked my soul out. I am currently in an incredibly supportive environment with people I legitimately admire, have fun with, and they support me. I am told daily what a great job I do in my roll - I've finally found a good fit for me. I am encouraged to seek out that "next level". There are literally hundreds of people I haven't met yet, so the potential to continue to increase my social circle is built in. If I wasn't in this positive space during my days I don't know what I'd be doing right now. Thank goodness and bless that work-family I have right now.
Originally Posted by paco123
It's very hard. Neither of us is "out of love" with our respective Ws. I think, based on what you have shared, each of us believe we found our soulmates.
Interesting, paco. Although honestly I really don't believe in soulmates. I just thought I found a really fantastic match. And I took SO long to be sure this was a good match. I really processed this very slowly to be sure. And then we just got married and BOOM.
*** I had an "OH F----" moment the other day. I was with my friend and we were catching-up. After we parted, friend text me. She very kindly pointed out to me that she didn't feel I was really listening to her very well during our convo, and she didn't want to be mad so she wanted to be sure she was honest with me about her feelings.
This is a valued friend so I of course seriously considered what she told me and apologized and owned up to my behavior. She was right. But it made me wonder if this is more of a habit than I think it is. At first I wondered if I'm just in kind of a bad selfish phase because I feel like my life is blowing up, and I'm desperate for help from friends. But I'm not sure that's the whole story. I'm trying to tune in to myself now. I think it might be a major life improvement I need to focus on.
I do know I tend to be a "fixer" in conversation. Always offer advice, even when not asked for.
