Please do what you feel is the best for you. Don't take advice form others if it gose against what you feel is right. I am sorry if I came across like a witch in the last post. I agree with sinjin about maybe modifying it a bit.
I took the post the wrong way. With asking around and reading up on affairs. I have notcied that some wheree aviodable if both partner's didn't with hold stuff. (Sex, feelings or dreams for the future ect...) And I took the advice the worng way and had to mouth off. Sorry
Quote: I just have to give him time to decide what will make him happier - losing me and being with her or vice versa. He has told me before that either way he will be hurt. I guess he needs to figure out what would hurt more.
That is basicly all it boils down to. But while you are giving him time to decide which will hurt the most. It wouldn't hurt for you to do the best you can to show him what he would be missing if he left.
Find something to do that is for you. Something that will get you out of the house a day or two out of the week. Join a club or go some place where the people have a postive outlook on things. It really dose rub off, and will do a world of good.
Quote: I don't intend to allow this double life to continue forever. But it has only been 4 months now, and although it is worse cause he has grown closer to her, we have also grown closer together at the same time. I will have to rethink my approach and strategy if nothing changes over the next month.
You are doing such a good job at seeing what needs to be done. I have a hard time at rembiering that it will take time to see if what you are doing is working. I am constaly reminding myslef that it takes longer to work things out then it did for things to get in such a bad shape.
Just rember to take care of you, and show H what a wounderful person he married in the frist place.
