I am going thru almost the same situation; Read below:
I will try and make this as simple as possible. Dated eight years, married last year, no children. My age 25, his 30.
About two months ago he met the OW.
(She is by the way is a 19 yr. old girl who adores him, doesn't have job, or home either, and has a drug problem, he doesn't have drug issue)
Then last month i found them together the night he decided to leave me. The same night he told me he doesn't love me anymore.
Long story short.
He is currently living at his bestfriend mom place. I am living at my parents. Our apartment is empty.
I let him have the keys so he would have somewhere to stay, incase he got exhausted of living like a hobo.
So far he says he has feelings for me and for the OW.
That he is confused and that he doesn't want a divorce for now at least.
(sometimes i feel he says this out of guilt and the fact that i am using his health insurance for my therapy)
But then last week i found out that he brought her to our apartment to spend the night.
I want to fight for our marriage... but i wonder if I am compromising my values too much. How much is crossing the line?
Its like my nightmare came true. She was in my home. In my shower. In my bed.
I of course got a bit upset. He apologized. And he cried. He thinks he is emotionally and mentally unstable and could not believe he did such a thing to me too.
I told him i still care about him and will try to be understanding.
And now that he is running out of money (because he keeps taking her out)NOW he is telling me he can't afford to write me a check for rent!
And now that he is running out of money (because he keeps taking her out)NOW he is telling me he can't afford to write me a check for rent!
GOSH I am just getting so sick and tired of this. Oooh and let me ask you a question? Don't you have moment where you picture them together? Doesn't it make you just want to go insane!
Oh and here is my suggest that has helped me out. GO to therapy. It something i look forward to.
