Your last post, about him saying you will make some man happy, and then how you refused to look good for him, etc.
He is feeling ALOT of guilt right now, and is afraid to let that go. He has gotten comfortable in the current situation, and change scares him. I think he likes what he sees in you, but can't tell you that, because then what would be his reason for the OW? That would me a major change for him.
Keep at it sister, it is slowly working. I would layoff telling him you love him so much, and all the reassurance you give him. You have said it multiple times, and he knows. Everytime you say it now, it just makes him feel bad.
He has to clear his head and think his way out of this. You can't do anything except try to make yourself happy throughout.
I see I took some flak for saying that you should think about your ML. I am not saying to totally with hold it per se, but maybe you might not be so "available" (be out doing something, come home and be too tired once in awhile). When you do ML, have him use some kind of protection out of decency for you, then BLOW HIS MIND!
This sounds like a big key for your H. You aren't really with holding, just modifying it a bit.
