Pick you battles. Someone died. Do you believe this is true? If so,turn on your empathy.
Now if she "Demands" your time so she can be irresponsible and go out drinking or what not:
When you.. I feel.. If you... I will...
When you make demands like this, I feel disrespected. If you want my help, I will be way more inclined to help if you ask politely.
It was true. Her friend was a former client she cared for years and continued to visit at the health care facility after she found another job. She bonded with him right at the time we started dating.
