I talked to him this morning, he told me that he was thinking about me in my new outfit. He said he is upset cause I didn't bother to look good when I was with him. He said he feels that I am dressing like that to spite him. That I wouldn't make that effort for him, but now I am making it to find someone else. I told him that wasn't true, I told him I wasn't looking for anyone else. I sent him the following email:
"I was thinking about what you said, and it makes me sad.
Please don't think that I am doing anything to spite you. I love you very much now and I loved you very much before.
I am sorry you feel that me not looking my best equals me not caring. That is not true. I told you that I didn't realize how important it was to you, and I didn't realize that you thought I didn't care enough about you to look good. I told you that I expressed my love for you in different ways. After we had that talk in Feb, I told you that I was going to take better care of myself, and that is what I am doing. I would never do anything to intentionally hurt you. I apoligize for hurting you in the past, and if I am hurting you now. You need to let go of the hurt and anger from the past baby,
please find a way in your heart to forgive me and let go of the pain....Just as I am trying to forgive you for what has happened. Neither of us will ever heal until we do. We need to try to be friends at least right?"
He keeps bringing this issue up, should I continue to validate and repeat what I said above? I feel that he needs reassurance about my motives and my feelings. I;ve told him this about 5 times now, but he still doesn't seem to get past it, and all the other ways I've 'hurt him' in the past.
