Attracting the WW back ?

[gzabetas]

Thanks for the replies.

To add my story details.
We have been together close to 10 years. There was always an age difference, I met her when I was 39 and she was 19 in a college class we were both taking. Now I am 49 and she is 29 and I think she is re-evaluating her life choices.
I am in good shape and physique and pass for quite younger so there was never an issue there.
Also the guy she is seeing now is my age again, so I dont think that was an issue.

We had a son 4 years ago, and somewhere I dropped the ball with my share of the housework. I was worried about finances and stared studying for new IT certs. Passed my CCNA a few months back. This was my attempt at better employment to support my family. She took this as me being selfish. I hated nothing more that studying again at this age. I did it for them.

Before Xmas I got bomb dropped. And after that the same script follows that most of us here had.
Supposedly it was all bad for years and I didnt notice. All these years we were always doing things together and laughing.
Sex once a week. She told me that the sex wasnt enough. I have since checked the stats and it seems we were in normal range.
I have good days and bad days with her. Today I am facing the "alien" that most of us here see.
A psychologist she was seeing recommended working out at the gym for her,. I signed her up and paid for it,.
At that place she met many men, in good shape etc. It appears she started badmouthing me for 2 years and crying to them. I have signs she has met a guy my age there and has an affair. All this time I had no signs of unhappiness from her.
Hiding cell phones. New friends. Late nights out. Wants tattoo now. Social media chats with new boys. The works.
Honestly you can read anyone's story here and insert my name it seems.

Everything I tried to do to help her backfired. Psychologist, driving lessons, gym membership.
She told me she had checked out years ago.
I cried for a month after BD but thanks to this forum mostly I saw I was not alone. I felt like such a fool, until I read other stories here from people more intelligent than me facing the same thing.

We live in my house (PS we are in Greece) and she wanted to get my out. Thanks to posts here I didnt allow that.
She has talked to her lawyer etc. I have asked for her paperwork. She argues and fights anything where I get a sliver of dignity or a chance to see my kid. Even with all the detaching I practice it is such a rollercoaster it is killing me.
I fought to avoid the divorce, but at this point I think its unavoidable for my sanity.