The bomb woke me up, but she still won't talk

[lusa]

Thank you Steve, LH, Neffer and AS, your words, questions and observations have been fully taken on-board.

I think I've finally let her go and dropped the rope started to let her go and drop the rope.

I haven't snooped for 2 weeks now, and have just been focusing on me and what I need to do to move forward with my future. I feel a bit like a fly who's been buzzing against closed windows for a year and just found out that another window was open all along and flown straight out of it into the fresh air.

I realize this is a process and that I have only really just started it, despite being well aware of the theory and why i needed to do it for nearly a year now. I have been constantly checking my own thoughts and motivations to ensure I am not doing this to try and get her back. It really is because I have had enough and have realized I should have never wanted to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. The fact that she doesn't love me, doesn't make me unlovable.

I just wanted to say thanks - I finally get it now!