Wondering if anyone here is tried the ATTRACTION method of getting one'e walkaway spouse back. Is that even possible? I have followed many of the threads here and have bought and read Divorce Remedy so I am to speed with all described (GAL, 180s, Detach etc) Just wondering if anyone has thrown attraction into the mix. I am trying anything I can but it seems impossible to sway here, months after BD.
I'm not sure if you just mean attracting them back in general or if you are referring to some specific program out there, but the idea of DB'ing is to give your spouse time and space while working on yourself and making yourself more appealing and attractive. You do 180's on bad behavior. You get off the couch, get out and GAL. You get back in shape, improve your wardrobe, wear cologne/ perfume, be the best parent to your kids, etc. Basically you improve yourself wherever possible. The problem is most LBS's think they can do this for a few days or weeks and bring their WAS back, but once a spouse gets to the point of BD'ing and being a WAS, there simply is no quick fix. The quick fixes are months or even years behind you at that point. Now to turn things around you have months or even years of hard work ahead.
If you post more about your particular situation we can help you more!
