Funny to hear you say that Gekko, several members of my WW's family had told me the same things about her.
Alot of what I post on here to others has to do with "turning points" so to speak on an LBS's journey. Where you are I think is one of those points. When you are validated by others not in your sitch that you aren't crazy in regards to your WW's ways/actions, that's very empowering...the validation sets off the whole "hey wait a minute" mindset and from that point an LBS can really start to move forward so to speak.
The second part...yeah once you are aware they are feeding you a bunch of crap as others see it too...I can understand the desire to want to be less friendly towards her, but I would caution you to be mindful of the larger picture when you feel like changing your disposition with her. Ideally friendly would be great, but at worst do your best to keep it courteous and business like or as we also say around here treat her like the cashier at the store or your next door neighbor. I haven't read back to your prior thread but I assume she is the mother of your children so beyond the reasons I've just given, if nothing else try to be that way for the benefit of your children. They will need and want both of you to be as cordial as possible given how much this will impact their lives going forward.
Lastly, just because your W may have her issues, don't let that preclude you from continuing to look within yourself at how you contributed to getting your R where it is. None of us are perfect so surely there are things that you can work on within yourself to be a better man, father and spouse.
