I think in some ways getting part of what you want puts you in a trickier position than getting none of what you want. If he'd just ghosted you, you'd have divorced him by now, presumably. But because there's this tiny trickle of warmth and the half-indication of something more, or at least, something more hasn't been explicitly taken off the table, then you are still hanging in there. I feel I'm in precisely the same situation, as H is saying very clearly he wants to work on the marriage, just not now. I think there's such a risk we end up accepting crumbs and being resentful and miserable about it. But yes - these things take a lot of time, and a few more weeks won't make a difference, and it is important for both of you to feel safe. I guess as long as we both feel there's some progress being made, in some way, then it is worth it.
