Thanks TH and Alison. I am as a complete mess and I was reading lots of posts from people and there seem to be very few MR recoveries. That was telling me to go all in and push an answer so I can move on . I need to heal and I cannot do it whilst the woman I love is living with me in the same house . I cannot wait 2 years of abject misery in the slim chance it will work out . I know there are no answers or quick fixes but I need my sleep and to eat , if it means a harsh confrontation then I will do it . I am moving ahead with selling the house and yes I do hope she changes her mind , but I am aware she will be playing and testing me
