At least now you can feel a bit better about things and find some peace and comfort in knowing that the great companionship is still there. Continue being a friend and a good listener. He needs to feel safe when he talks to you. No pressure or reminders of what he's done or hasn't done. Treat him as a friend for now.
Yes. In fact I think this is why I feel more at ease today. I can’t believe I was even able to stay calm asking about his GF. That kind of amazes me. Does it still sting? Of course, a bit. I cringe once in a while when I think of them together. But the bite seems to be gone. I feel sorry for H in a way, and feel God is calling me to continue to show compassion for his turmoil and not condemnation for his past and present actions. I’ve started up on my regular prayers and bible reading after being a little irregular on vacation. I have a few prayer partners too that know my sitch and are praying for me and H. This I believe has helped me regroup too.
Originally Posted by peacetoday
I always felt MY XH left totally left our lives- to protect us for the future man he had become and still is today
This is an interesting perspective. H often said he was too damaged to be good to anyone, and couldn’t imagine why I would want him. Is he protecting us from himself? Who knows. But I don’t think he believes he is worthy of any kindness or love…..from anyone. I pray he will someday. Whether it be from me and his kids remains to be seen. But I hope he can experience true contentment someday.
I'm curious Peace .....Your XH married the OW, then divorced her. How soon after the D did he marry her, and how long did it last?
