Ok. Ok. You are right. I have went through some really hard a$$ experiences that have certainly given me greater insight, empathy, and understanding for people. I can relate to others better. I see through some people much better as well.
I said Earlier I was ok being alone. But I don’t think that’s true. I think I was so unhappy with ex bf, I would rather be alone then continue on with him. My brother came to visit with his wife and they have a really really great relationship despite hardships. I would like a healthy relationship. I see that it’s possible. They both had a lot of things in common and maybe that helped them stay bonded and attracted for longer. Both liked dancing and hiking. And my brother is more of a quirky hipster that she had fun with.
Someone told me that the only man in my life should be my son right now. I don’t necessarily think that’s healthy either. They did tell me I need to date myself and that I need to know myself better so I know what I want.
I think I’m taking a bit of a break. I need to get back into exercise, work on setting up a little part time niche business I have had in the back of my head for a while. I do want to date again though eventually.
I think I will try to look for someone that has more in common with me next time around. Maybe someone that is a bit more active and maybe more young at heart would work better. Ex husband and ex bf were both home bodies And for them going on a small walk with me was a compromise. Someone that already likes to explore and see new things might be a better fit. Someone that enjoys spending time with me and my son would be ideal. Someone that can just connect and joy feel the need to establish some weird authoritarian role from the 1950s.
My love languages are verbal affirmations and time spent... so maybe I’m going for the wrong guys
