Yail, I am not quite ready to put my love in a safe box and move on to explore other relationships. My history with W is not easy to put into emotional storage.
I agree my W is trying her best and is not unkind. Aside from the first few months, when she blamed me for everything and went through her list of grievances dating back two decades ago (which I understand she had to do to justify walking away), she has been very civil.
Have you ever thought, in a topsy-turvy way, that it would increase the likelihood of "conversion" and reconciliation if our respective Ws were actually more monstrous? I just wonder if it will ever occur to my W that, however civil she is now, her choosing to walk away was the most monstrous betrayal of our wedding vows.
But as Sandi reminds us, the fog descends that blurs our W's judgment. Who knows if this fog will ever lift?
