When my W asks the same question, I've stopped repeating the answer and gone to: "W, we discussed this already. You remember, right?"

There's nothing wrong with you separating your finances either. Now just get out and get busy. How many hours are you working right now?

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.