Logically I agree. However last time it just gave her a reason to turn it around and continue to avoid any accountability. I understand I have a right/reason but I do want it to be useful to my overall cause.
What does her taking accountability look like to you?
You're point is that tough love is going to push her away? B/c the last time you did it she felt justified in having another affair b/c you were being mean?
If that's what you're getting at, you're never going to win that. The best thing you can do is totally change your attitude. I really like joejoe's post. Put yourself first, don' tolerate BS, and don't get sucked into fights. Go GAL and do your best to enjoy things and be genuinely happy. Continue working on your 180s.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
