Yail, Your words are so comforting. Yes, W is one of the kindest persons I know. I believe something snapped inside when she left, given the manner in which she left. I believe she does not intend to hurt. She is no monster; quite the opposite.
Perhaps you feel as I do: that given the way I continue to love W, it would be unfair to anybody else to enter into a relationship right now. But kindred spirit that you are, you can appreciate the stress that comes from holding these two impulses in equipoise: to abide by my love while trying to detach emotionally.
Steve, It was spontaneous and simultaneous for both of us.
