Alison: have a virtual hug. You had a traumatic time yesterday and a bad night's sleep. Everything seems hopeless in the aftermath of that, and there's not an awful lot you can do to feel good right now. That said, even tiny things might make you feel a tiny bit better. A long walk, a meditation podcast, a bath, an upbeat song, a phone call to a friend, a trip to the cinema. Do all the things you think might help you feel a tiny bit better. Have an early night tonight. Things will seem better tomorrow.
This stuff is so mentally and emotionally exhausting, just getting through the day takes so much energy. I know so well that feeling of just needing a hug and reassurance and the person who should be doing that being the person who is causing you all this pain. Things will get better, they always do. In the meantime breathe and take care of yourself xx