I too am sorry the conversation went badly. You did the right thing. His response is about him losing control. He doesn't want you to go so is now making up reasons for you not to go.
I told my H back in November that I was planning to go away skiing in Feb. I told him a week after he came back from visiting an old school buddy in Dubai. Whilst he was there he thought he'd spend a few days in Asia, so did a detour back that way. He told me about Dubai about three weeks before and didn't mention Malaysia at all.
Anyway, when he got back, he told me he was taking the kids away for Feb half term and I said that that works well, I am going skiing in Feb. His response was an accusation "You're going away without the children ?!?!?!" then a whole bunch of "who's going to look after them?" (his mum), "You're spending a lot of money" and finally "You're so SELFISH". At no point did he think that anything he said was hypocritical. Over the following months, whenever it was brought up (always by him), he would pull a face or huff. He mentioned about a dozen times how annoyed his mum was that I was going away. I would just smile, say "OK" and walk out of the room.
Of course, he doesn't say any of this to anyone else. He reserves his judgement just for me. He even told his mum that he gets to go away on his own so "FS does too". Inside he knows he is being a hypocrite.
He doesn't hate you. He hates losing control. Bring it up again after a couple of days - I'd do this by text. Harder to reactive by text. Say "Have you had a chance to look at those dates? I need to know which dates work for you". It shouldn't be a case of "if you're going away", it's when.
