It seems like you are really doing a good job. As for telling him you don't know when he asked what could he do now that there is someone else. Is about all you can do, if you said anything differnet it would be preussing him.
Quote: I know that if OW found out what his mom and family thinks about her, it would cause problems for her, his mom REALLY wants to meet her and talk to her, tell her that she is not welcome, that she is destroying our family etc... I told her to wait, that I think she should wait until he actually moves out, or decides that we are officially over. What do you think? When should I set his mom loose on her? I know not to do it now cause then he would feel angry and as if we are controlling him. OW needs to know what she is up against don't you think?
You really have no control of anyone but you (we have learned that the hard way. Because if we could control it both our H's would stay home where they belong) But if I was you I would ask his mom not to say or doing anything while both you and H are trying to work things out. Because if she went to Ow H would think you put her up to it. (I may be wrong, but if he does leave, it kinda of gives mom opan range) But then it sorta seems like a bad ideal too, satafing but bad. And who cares if Ow needs to know what she is up against. If she knew she would change her tatics to suit her. Let her be in the dark, it will work aginset her in the long run, i think.
I wouldn't leave, if I could afford it. Let him if that is what he wants.
Quote: On a good note, she is such a fool, knowing how much it bothers her, I am not leaving home for sure. If he leaves, I know he won't last a month. He was so homesick on our honeymoon, and we were only gone a week. He will be so burned out from running back and forth between places (he said he would come home everyday for our son), he will have NO money to do anything, his family will be pissed at him. He will miss the family too much and be miserable, end up blaming OW and come home (wishful thinking, but I have been right so far....)
It may be wishinful thinking, but as long as you keep in mind what is going on, it's not bad to wish.
Quote: I need advice on what to tell him the next time he asks me what he should do about OW? keep in mind that he still thinks he can be happier with her, and thinks that our marriage is over.
Ther really isn't anything you can say to him. This is something he has to work out for himself. Even thouogh it is painful to you. He has to get his sh** together before he dose anything. I wish there was anwser that i could give you that would make it sound right.
