Bottom line: emotional detachment is hard because I truly, deeply love W. Given all I have on my plate professionally, I am choosing to stand by, even as I open myself to other friendships. If anything, these friendships remind me of how special W is. This may change in time, but for right now, I remain committed. She is worth the wait.
Paco, your love for your W is beautiful and it reminds me of how I'm trying to approach my own W. Both you and I are not sure how long we will stand, but we are content in making that decision each new day. I am determined to not put a timeline on myself. Perhaps I move on tomorrow. Perhaps it is years. All that matters is that we are making our decisions with confidence, grace, and kindness towards ourselves.
It sounds like you and I both have kind WAWs. I do think that makes a world of difference. So many people here are dealing with temporary monsters and I have no idea how they handle that.
