Definition of individuation 1 : the act or process of individuating a(1) : the development of the individual from the universal : the state of being individuated specifically : INDIVIDUALITY
So, don't know how if I'm using it in wrong sense, but I do mean it in the merriam-webster sense.
TH, Don't know if I can do the smell nice all the time, or the teeth white. The smiling, I can do and I try.
In the context of your post it appeared you were using "midlife individuation" as being synonymous with "midlife crisis". Individuation is an extremely positive thing. It is similar to self-differentiation. I maintain that spouses, in order to engender a healthy marital relationship, need to be individuated. Codependency is extremely unhealthy, and even dangerous. I've known of spouses that were so codependent on their spouse, that once their spouse passed away they could not go on living. Yes, some committed suicide. Others just stop living and entered a state of waiting for death.
If you weren't using it the way I read it, then I apologize. But it is completely within the realm of possibility to be individuated, or even to individuate later in life, without necessitating the dissolution of one's marriage.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
