Dealing with a complex MLC and/or Wayward Wife

[P_Jam]

LH,

I agree. That is why I have also already started LRT inside the house. I plan to go dark/grey as soon as she moves out and only discuss things necessary about the kids.

two days ago when she came to me about being "more friends" (small talk, how was your day, etc) I made it clear that is not where we are. She also seems to assume we will be spending quality family time together on the weekends and doing events. Although I did not address this specifically I believe I made it clear that would not be our relationship. She wants/needs space - She GETS space!

Frankly, because of what I know: Moving from a 2500sq ft house with large yard to a 3 bedroom apartment with two VERY active boys is going to be difficult, financially it will also be difficult (even with what I'm paying). The fact that I know there is still love there, and that she is making small steps to get IC (she called two DR's but they were not accepting new patients), the affect it will have on the kids as soon as the move happens. I know she has SOME regret about her random hook-up "what am I doing?, I didn't even know that guy. Why would I be doing this?" I'm hopeful that lifting the fog or rock-bottom maybe sooner rather than later. <-- silly I know.

At this point she still acts as if she is the only victim. She will say that; what she did was wrong BUT.. you cheated on me and lied to me for 2years! And you bugged me! <-- This is her stance! Still no real accountability. Maybe when she realizes the grass is not greener this will come?