I understand what you are saying kitkat, I realize that you are just speaking from your experience and others. It does help me to look at different perspectives cause I am too close to the situation to be objective, so thank you.
well, friday night I knew he was going out, so I got ready before him. Normally I wait until he leaves to spend as much time as possible with him. I looked pretty hot (if I do say so myself). I also put on perfume (something I never do..).
H told me that I look so beautiful, he also said that a lot of guys were going to try to pick me up. I said I know and smiled. Then I gave him a quick kiss and left.
Around 3am he called my cell, I was almost asleep and answered. He asked if I was at home? I said yes. He said he was drinking. Then he said he had to go and he'd call me back later. I think OW was coming close to him and he didn't want her to know he was calling me. He has NEVER called me when he is out with her on the weekends.
The next day he told me that he was just calling cause he was worried about me, and wanted to make sure I was safe (yeah right!! he wanted to know if I came home or was out all night). He asked me if I had a good time out, I said yes. He said he is glad that we are both moving on. I didn't respond (normally I would tell him that I will never want to be with anyone else etc..) Then he put his head on my lap and hugged me (like a child), I just held him and didn't say anything.
Anyways, we spent the day together working outside the house, then he went to take a shower, I didn't follow him along as I usually do (another 180). Then he called me from the shower and asked me to pass him a new bar of soap, then he asked me if I wanted to come in the shower with him. I said okay, he asked me if I wanted to ML, I said okay. He then asked me if we had an open marriage cause I knew he had someone else but still wanted to ML with him.
I said we do not have an open marriage, that in an open marriage the couple are emotionally committed to each other, but agree to just have sex with others. He said 'isn't that what we have now?' I said no, that he wasn't emotionally committed to me, that he wanted to leave me for OW, that he wasn't just with her for sex.
He was quiet for awhile, then he said that he WAS emotionally attached to me, but he was also emotionally attached to her, they were just different emotions. Then he said he didn't know what was wrong with him, that he is f&(*(ed up. I didn't say anything, just hugged him. Then we both got ready and left separately. If he calls me again tonight, I will not answer the phone, he caught me offguard when he called last night,I could have pulled another 180 and ignored his call, or at least pretend I wasn't at home...
