Yes children are blameless victims that have to put up with the fallout of D. They have no say in it and definitely didn't cause it.

I hope the nanny situation will give you the time you need to find another solution. Plus between now and August a lot can happen/change.

I think that you will find that both you and the kids will adapt to whatever situation. It may be a pain and definitely not ideal, but ye will adapt and make the most of it.

Best wishes


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together