Well after spending all night with his slut, my H called me in the morning, said he got really drunk last night and doesn't feel good, he was going to call in sick. I said okay, was nice and didn't question him. I assumed he would come home and sleep. I just found out that he hasn't come home yet. I called the OW work and found out that she is not in either! HE IS MISSING WORK TO BE WITH THAT LITTLE SLUT!! This is unacceptable!! not only has he wasted thousands of dollars being with her, now he is missing work too!! I am FURIOUS!! How the hell am I supposed to be nice and friendly towards him when he is being totally irresponsible!! I am not going to let him drag me down financially with him. The only way he is able to afford our current lifestyle is because I foot half the household expenses, without me, H, his mom, brother and our custodial son would have to move to an appartment, there is no way he can afford the house on his own, let alone the car and insurance etc... WHY THE HELL SHOULD I CONTINUE TO PAY FOR HIM TO BE WITH HER??? I have told him this many times before as I see the money being wasted away on her. (dinner and drinks etc....)
This is the last straw, I know that it will go against DB prinicples but I cannot be a doormat while he uses me for my money. I know that if I saw him right now I would probably slap him in the face, but I am hoping my anger subsides by the time I see him in a few hours.
What do I say to him? How can I continue to be friendly and inviting towards him (which he reciprocates) if he is not being accoutable for his actions?
They are affecting our son, and our living situation.
I think I will tell him he needs to get a part time job to payback all the money he has wasted (he actually suggested this before but I said no). Also, I don't want to spend time with him right now, let alone ML or cuddle, which I know he will want to do tonight. Should I go out and come home late? Should I let him see how angry I am at his irresponsibility? Should I ignore him? I don't want to push him towards her, but at the same time I can't let him get away with this.....Should I threaten legal action (seeing a lawyer). At this moment I don't know if I want to spend the rest of my life with someone who is so F&(&(ed up.
