That's really good news about your daughter, Flying Solo - despite how awful everything else is. I think both of my children were pretty emotionally neglected by me in the months before H moved out - my focus was on how terrible I was feeling, and my attempts to either change H, convince him to move out, try different things to improve the marriage and get upset that they weren't working, anger, fear for the future or dread and feeling trapped. They were always fed and cared for and homework supervised, but in the past couple of months I've felt much less trapped and more free to concentrate on their needs and building relationships with them. I've actually really enjoyed that and I don't plan for that to change, no matter what else happens with the M. I know kids of that age can be very difficult and very remote, and you being ill yourself won't help. You're doing okay.
