There is no question that I have anger issues when it comes to everything that has been going on for the last 3+ years. I’ve been working on that one day at a time. I have days when I deal with it better than others.
During the last conversation with H, I let him know that I would not be the one who files for divorce. He knew from the very beginning that I did not want a divorce. I was willing to work on things, those things also included things within myself, not just with the marriage.
I can see were someone would think I was ambivalent in regard to divorce.... but i’m not sure that that is a bad thing? During the last conversation H and I had he mentioned to me that he had gone to see a divorce lawyer, but did not have plans to file for divorce. He stated that he “was just seeing what his options were. “
It may seem that I don’t want my H to have a relationship with his parents but like you said those are his parents, and I don’t expect him to choose me over them. I don’t want his parents to be an issue, but in my mind, when things were going well between the two of us H would have a way of bringing up the subject of the strained relationship. It was like he was unable to move forward unless that part was resolved first.I wanted us to focus on making the two of us stronger and then tackling the parent issue at a later time.
I have read BluWave and Gordie’s thread, and admire them for their patience, good heart and ability to be able see things from a different perspective.
