Hi LoveForever, I'm trying to figure out the same thing. Your sitch and mine are very similar. My H is acting this way as well...his attitude toward me lately has been more annoyed than over the last few weeks. It started this weekend and especially on Mother's Day. He had a little angry streak going...was asking me what I would do if he was out of the picture forever, how I would raise our son, what kind of person I'd want him to be, what I'd do to make sure that happened, etc. Then he told me he didn't know if I could be the kind of wife he always thought he would have. I asked him to explain exactly what that wife would do, and he said she would cook, clean, take care of his kid, and make him feel loved when he came home every night. He didn't want to have chores to do when he came home...wanted it all handled for him so he could just sit and relax. WTF??? Ya, wouldn't we all like that. BTW, I do all those things now, so I'm not sure to what level I'm supposed to take it so I'm meeting his expecations.
Anyway, I think their moods fluctuate as much as ours. It just depends on the day, the quality/quantity of interaction with the OW, the level of guilt they are feeling, their own self-confidence at any particular moment, etc. I've tried not to let myself get too upset when he talks to me like that (although it's hard). I just think to myself that the tides will turn again in a few days (hopefully) and he'll swing the other way. It's an emotional rollercoaster...there are days when I swear I'm done with this and am ready to file, then a few hours later I've calmed down and get my next wave of patience and I think I can hold out for a while longer.
Sounds like you're doing the right things. Keep up the good work.
