how do I answer him? HELP

[ObiWan]

He is now expressing anger and resentment that has been burning up inside him for years - is it good that he is bringing it out in the open? Is this part of the healing process? Or does repeatedly expressing it keep it in the foreground? I know it is something that he has to deal with but what actions can I do on my part to help him get past it?

At least in my sitch, she burned off a lot of anger the first couple of months, while I was DB'ing. She eventually got it out, and we rarely fight (once every couple of weeks now). It seems to be part of the healing process that they need to get the hurt out.

You seem to be doing pretty well hanging onto the DB methods and following them (with a couple of backslides,but we're only human; it gets easier to not backslide as time goes on).