Quote: I guess I should just continue my efforts for another week or so to determine what is working, but it's so hard to tell, because they seem to bringing us closer, but at the same time he is spending more time with OW. I guess I need to figure out what actions lead to consistent improvements?
Maybe it will just take a little more time. Set down a exime what all you are doing. Is it helping you fell better about your self or feel closer with H? If so keep up the good job.
As for H spendig more time with OW. One of the sites I found said that right before a man or woman ends an affair they will spend incressed amount of time with OP to make sure they want out.(sorry don't know how to get back to it. Should have booked marked it but afarid H would find it.)
I know that dosen't help, but it might explain what is going on. And who knows him spending more time with OW, and seems like he is getting irritated with her. It might be a good thing, he can see that she isn't whant he first thought.
