Now correct me if I am wrong, but in your sitch you guys seem to get along great, do things together, watch shows together and then at some point you will initiate or bring up intimacy. She will reject you and then you distance yourself from her. In the past she has indicated that she thought you only wanted her for sex and in essence, when you distance yourself from her you are just proving her point. Again now correct me if I am wrong here.
My only correction is that when she said that, she was referring to years ago. Time and abstinence should have cleared this up. When I got rejected and pulled back it was more because of these instances lead to an R talk. What the W said caused me to pull back, not the rejection its self. I believe she realizes this point.
As for the rest of your post, I can't disagree.
From the beginning, I have pondered creating more space. DBing, as well as others, have advised not moving out. I am not afraid of what would happen. In fact, early on W had suggested that I do, so that she could have time to decide if she wanted to try to work it out. I refused and suggested she move out.
As for a loving conversation, we had this conversation and I told her that I would be out by the end of this year. Yea, I know it wasn't immediate and didn't have the same impact. But W knows that I am the type that keeps his word. I may wait for the right moment and remind her.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
