Quote: Wednesday is his night for drinking. He used to do it alone, then he started with OW. Tonight he went again, I am afraid that he went with her, that they will make up tonight. Even if he didn't go with her, once he starts drinking he will probably call her.
Quote: I told him that I was not a slut, that I have integrity and morals unlike his bitch. That I was a married woman who takes her vows to God seriously, that just because he failed in that respect, that I wouldn't follow suit.
It seems to me when I get P*** and start calling OW names if front of my H, it just makes her look better to him. And throwing the fact that he hasn’t taking his vows to heart, will just set you back. Next time tell him that you are not going to discuss this until both of you and act like adults. I done that once, H asked if that meant I thought he was acting like a child. I made my tongue bleed by not saying what I thought (That he was acting like a baby, and that he needed to grow up.) Instead I point out to him that I included myself in the statement. Then I calmly walked out. When I got home later we was both calm and had one of the best talks about our R.
Now remember this is one of the easier said than done things. I have only done it once when I should have done it at least 20 times. Maybe one of us will master the technique and pass the secret along.
So much for them breaking up, Damn! Why doesnt that stupid girl get a conscience and leave him alone! When he says it's over, why does she continue to pursue him! Stupid little bitch. sorry needed to vent
We have all wanted the OP to get a conscience and leave. That is one of the things that makes it so painful. And for the venting that what we are here for. Vent here instead of with H. And who knows someone might have advice on what you are venting about. The main thing is not to keep it bottled up.
The next time H brings up him and her. Tell him that you are wanting to be friends, with him but there are boundaries to friendships and the subject of them is one of yours. That way you show him that you are will to put in the effort of friendship but not to be walked on.
