Met with exW's new squeeze earlier this week but didn't have time to update all y'all. Well, we met for 15-20 minutes over a beer and it went all good. The guy is completely different from me, but it would've been weirder if exW had found someone close to who I am. He's a nice enough guy and being a parent himself with 50/50 split, he understands the landscape very well and also what his role would be with my kids. He sounds like a really caring and involved father, which was good to see.
If I had to give one word to exW's choice, it would be 'safe'. He is a regular dude with a regular job and is humming along in his life. Nothing wrong with that, but definitely not an alpha male. Just didn't get that vibe from him.
I didn't come out guns blazing, but it was interesting to see who exW went after in terms of an R. Not sure where their R is going, but we'll see.
Honestly, I felt so good after the meet. Not because I felt like I was in competition with this guy, but just gave me a good idea of where I fit in the dating landscape and what I am after. I was emotionally cool and I feel super indifferent about exW and her life path. I went in the meet with the attitude that I was going to meet 'The Rock' as my exW's new bf and that he was going to be superior to me in every regard. That emotional attitude help me temper my own approach and just to be myself. He is him and I am me - we both have value as human beings and who exW wants to be with is her preference. Doesn't reflect on me as an individual and what my worth is.
I know I am in a really privileged situation with this because this guy is not an OM that my exW cheated with. If that was the case, this meet would not have happened. If a guy was actively involved in the destruction of my marriage, I already know his character and level of integrity. No need to find out more. But, I am so lucky that I am not in that position.
I am charting my own journey and meeting this guy felt like a huge closure to me. Not sure why, but it's like a burden was lifted from my shoulders.
