Thanks for dropping by B! I am glad your sitch is winding down. It is amazing how liberating it is when you get through the worst of it. Still not 100% healed but very well on my way. Thank you for your support.
More OLD fun last night. Decided I was getting a bit too focused on Facebook guy so chatted with a couple other guys last night and have a couple of future dates...after I get back from my holidays. One is with a guy my age who lives about 45 minutes away. He is 6’5”...finally someone taller than me... and has messaged me on and off since I started all of this. He is pretty attractive in his photos but he describes himself as “simple”...lol. He has been texting me every once in awhile on Tinder. TBH...I was kinda surprised he asked me out because his contact with me as been so sporadic. When I told him I would love to have coffee with him, he said he was as happy as a kid the night before Christmas...lol. He has the look of a “player” in his pics so I was really shocked that he said that.
The other guy I am probably going to meet just for fun. He is 12 years younger than me and has the same name as my XH’s affair. For some reason, I thought his name was Jack (thought I read that on his profile). I told him about his name twin and he said I could go ahead and call him Jack...lol. Jack looks like the type of guy I would have fallen for in high school. Boyishly cute with a mischievous smile...like he is thinking about doing something he shouldn’t. He is also a musician. Anyway...he and I have been chatting from the outset. Him flirting with me and me telling him there must be someone out there closer to his age that he would like.
Did chat with Facebook guy again last night. He texted me a couple of things yesterday that made me think he is enjoying talking to me but is uncertain about where this is headed and maybe is a little worried about how much we are in contact. Thank gawd for that because I’m in the same boat. I thought he would probably back off from texting me last night but no... texted me a question... “Is it possible to feel in love all the time in a relationship?” and sparked a really good conversation. He agrees that love is an action and a choice and understands that the first phase of a relationship is a chemical reaction that has a biological shelf life and that the “work” starts after that has faded. He gets that on a rational level but, I think, but I think still hopes for the fairytale. Real love is different from that.
Anyway...time to jump in the shower and get ready to face the day. Love and (((HUGS))) to all.
