With my sitch in the home stretch and for the most part being settled, I've not been on here as much as I have in the past, but I saw the great support you've been giving hope2019 and so I wanted to see how you were doing.
Well the cat is out of the bag with the confirm of the affair huh? For most of us our waywards can make us believe all these elaborate other reasons for why they do what they do, but sadly most just end up being simple cheaters. FlySolo said it best and I agree, your H is an idiot. Pretty much for all of us LBSs on here the one who left us simply was nothing more than that.
I personally think it's great that you are dating, heck just talking to other guys as friends. As you find other guys who find you interesting and you they, it will do wonders for your detachment. As you've said you're in no rush. I go back to just because our spouses were idiots and left us doesn't mean that there was anything really wrong with us so beyond a normal period of grieving, why not get back out there if you feel you are emotionally ready to do so.
Also I love neffer's last post to you. You are finding your independent strength and you are free of your H. His path to walk is his alone. Meanwhile you can focus on yourself and your family free of his dysfunction. Beyond what you write within your own sitch, the words and encouragement you've provided to others show to me that you are transitioning from who you were when you arrived here to becoming a reluctant, but wonderful DB veteran.
