It's probably about balance again, isn't it Dilly? Finding the place where you can be kind, without it taking energy it is better for you to spend on yourself, your kids and your husband (in that order). And there are some people who use talking about their issues to stay stuck in them, and being about that kind of energy is really hard - especially when you've got problems of your own you are trying really hard not to wallow in but take responsibility for changing. I get it.
What would happen, do you think, if you dived in for a snog?
