Actually, when BD first happened I leaned heavily on my friends, I would meet up with them a lot and cry on the phone to them and they were brilliant. Sadly I don't think my neighbour has many friends, she is in dire need of GAL. From past experience of listening to her problems though she will spend literally hours and hours talking and not really make progress. But the main reason I don't think I should be there too much is that I have a tendency to want to rescue people and get involved in their problems (having watched that pattern in my mum I can see it's unhealthy), and I want to save my emotional energy for my husband, not for other people. It's a form of distancing, and I'm trying not to distance. So yes, I won't ignore her if she asks for a chat but I will protect both my time and my energy because she will be an emotional black hole otherwise. If we were friends in the good times and not just the bad that might be different.
Friendly text from dh this morning. Must try to temper my expectations of tonight. I would love a good snog though
