Quote: Why am I not asking him where he goes? I answered that by saying that I am respecting his wishes and leaving him alone. That is an excellent response.
Where have I been going? I was honest and told him that last week when I went out I went to my brothers place and watched movies (I didn't volunteer this at the time, I only told the truth afterwards because he thinks maybe I cheated on him too.) This is a good opportunity for you to be 'mysterious.' Rather than account for your whereabouts, when he asks, simply tell him, you needed a little personal time/space. PERIOD
When he asks me if I still want to be married or if I am okay with the separation? of course you should tell him that you would like the two of you to work through your issues and reconcile the marriage.
When he asks me if I have found a new 'boyfriend' yet? DON'T even bother to answer this one. Questions like that are coming from his own quilt. It's almost like wishful thinking. If YOU cheat on them that helps justify what they've done/are doing...it's puts you on his level and makes what he's doing, okay too. Questions like that are also their insecurity with regard to their realization that if they can be this deceptive..maybe you can be too and they'd like to believe that they're to special for you to cheat on them. It's an ego thing, so don't feed or entertain it.
When he asks me what's wrong or if I am sad about us? Or how come I am not sad/upset anymore? Be succinct, but be honest. Tell him you have a lot of things you're trying to sort out as a result of his A and that you're taking your time to deal with it in your own way.
What do I say????
Alot of your H's questions are just self serving drivel. He knows that what he's doing is hurtful and wrong. So if he's truly repentant then tell him to cease and desist all contact with OW so that the two of you can begin to work on your reconciliation. {hugs} T2
