I am a newbie. My H is having a PA, he has asked for a separation, (still living in the same house) says he loves me but not in love. Thinks he can find happiness with OW. I did the usual crying, yelling,pleading stuff etc... When he was with me I was either sad, which made him sad (constantly saying he is sorry for hurting me) OR I was either angry (makes him angry and we end up fighting). I am trying for the past week to apply the tecniques I have learned here. I went out last Friday, wouldn't tell him where I went. He went out with OW on Wed, when he came home he hugged me and said he loves me and misses me. I replied the same, but no questions about where he went, didn't mention the other woman etc...No R talk. He is the one who keeps bringing stuff up.
My problem is that I don't know how to respond to his questions. Please help me figure out what I can say that will not make me backslide but at the same time not make him think that I want out of our M or I don't care.
these are questions he is asking me:
Why am I not asking him where he goes?
I answered that by saying that I am respecting his wishes and leaving him alone.
Where have I been going?
I was honest and told him that last week when I went out I went to my brothers place and watched movies (I didn't volunteer this at the time, I only told the truth afterwards because he thinks maybe I cheated on him too.)
When he asks me if I still want to be married or if I am okay with the separation?
When he asks me if I have found a new 'boyfriend' yet?
When he asks me what's wrong or if I am sad about us?
Or how come I am not sad/upset anymore?
