THE 6 HUMAN NEEDS 1. Certainty: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure 2. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli 3. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed 4. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something 5. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding 6. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others
I don't see where any healthy individual should expect to have all these NEEDS met by their spouse. I believe that is called codependence. Obviously #4 to an extent but if you expect that during DB you aren't going to get it. At least not on your desired level. As for the other 5 on Robbin's list? I don't want to seek these needs in any spouse.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
