P....in my experience it happens in baby steps, it's a progression. Like AS said it is a numbers game and you have to weed through the misses to get to the successes. I have never been stood up on a date but I have had girls say they wanted to go out but ended up ghosting me when I tried to set a time and place. I have also talked with many that just faded out and never materialized. I have been on dates where I did not have an interest in continuing and I have also been told what you just got told after a couple of dates. I have also ran into a girl that had an STD and divulged it to me. I have also been dumped by someone who was on the rebound from their x boyfriend after a month and they got back together. That has actually happened twice.
OLD is hard because you only know what people tell you. Everyone has different intentions and usually people dont just come out and tell you what they are looking for. That is why you go in detached as AS suggested and eventually over time people will reveal themselves.
