Wow Hope. And I thought my situation moved quickly. Your H’s comments about needing to miss you are a bit strange to me. If he wants to miss you, why is he wanting a D right away? It is like he is trying to give you some hope but taking it away at the same time. That’s kind of like how my XH was in the beginning. Honestly...I think he was just biding his time and playing happy family with his affair to see if it would work before cutting ties with me. Do not let your H rush you into anything. You take the time you need and don’t worry about what he is doing.
I think you should take the agreement he gave you to a different lawyer for them to review to make sure you and your D6 aren’t being shortchanged. My XH tried to push everything through as well. I got my own lawyer. That BS about locking the door now but permanently locking the door if you get your own lawyer. What a crock! Trust me...he is permanently locking the door in his mind. He just doesn’t want you to think that so you will be more likely to go along with what he wants. You have a right to have your own legal advice and you should take advantage of it. Just because you get your own lawyer doesn’t automatically make it a fight. You can still try to reach an agreement in a cooperative way.
Are you sure there is no affair Hope? My XH swore up and down on our children’s lives multiple times that there wasn’t. He was lying is @ss off. People who are capable of affairs have absolutely no problem with lying...to anyone. Men tend not to leave situations unless they are sure they have a soft place to land. No offence to the guys out there but it does seem to be the case.
I know how hard this is Hope. I was where you are. Trust me...it gets better with time and space. Focus on GAL and your D6. I agree with AS. When you start to feel anxious, get outside for some exercise. I found myself focusing too much on my XH and his affair yesterday so I took my dog out for a walk. The anxiety went away and I returned home with a much better mindset. It really does work. (((HUGS)))
