I hope so. And if they don't get on, if I am not actually in the house then he can't blame me for it. Eldest is very reactive, defensive, wary and suspicious but after the treatment he's had over the past couple of years, I don't blame him. I've told him I expect the same civility and respect towards H as I'd expect towards anyone who came into our house, and that's all. To be honest I feel anxious thinking about the pair of them in a room together (this is something we plan to address with the family therapist) so it's probably better I am not around.
