I think your right about needing some radio silence for a bit. I've been pretty good about only responding to questions directly, and using other DBing technique in our very sparse communication (text message only) over the last 1.5 weeks. W's been initiating all contact, sending nice messages along with pictures of our dog, and actually sent a picture of herself today.

If W did express interest in working things out, that's all I'd take it as. I don't want to jump back into what we had before, because clearly that didn't work. I would only be willing to work on R if she took it seriously. Until then, I'm moving forward and becoming a better person every day.


Me 36, W 32
M 3 yrs, T 7 yrs
1st BD Aug 18
2nd BD Feb 19
EA w/ ex Aug 18
potential EA Feb 19
Trial Separation 3/2/19