Yes I can see that you don't have the typical situation. Perhaps you just sped up the process though, because you clearly were having a turbulent marriage and maybe one or the other of you would have demanded a separation at some stage anyway if things weren't addressed? And I can see how he would have some hurt pride around it not being his decision (a bit like the way the LBS has a huge ego blow at being left, because it makes you feel so completely powerless).

I haven't phoned him yet, he's been busy all afternoon and evening (he hasn't checked our joint email, we get lots of marketing emails because he never ticks the box and so I let him delete them in case he wants to see them), and he did say he was out a few evenings with work so I might try him tomorrow morning instead. We had a few nice texts this morning about different stuff. One of them was him telling me the pub he'd like to go to for dinner after our run on Thursday, so I booked us a table (180, both me offering and me booking). He likes things to be organised in advance (apparently apart from his marital status right now, lol) so it's good to have both of us looking forward to our date.

The podcast: I have 2 I find really useful and listen to a lot, Relationship Alive and Therapist Uncensored, both really good on attachment and safety and I've learnt a lot. I often listen to them on repeat because I really want to make sure the good stuff goes in smile I've been reading a bunch of books by different people but sometimes I prefer podcasts because you can multitask with them when you're cleaning or whatnot.

Anyway, I'm off to yoga and will also see my friend there for a quick hug too. Namaste.