So I posted this to Sandi in her Reflections thing. I am thinking need to have a discussion with the W about this temporary separation. I agree to a certain amoutn of money to help her with expenses. Nothing more, nothing less. She wanted to use my washer and dryer at the house since her apartment wouldn't have one. She doesn't want to use the community ones. Also, she wants to be there in the morning to get the kids on the bus. She wants to be there in the afternoon to get the kids off the bus. All this in the name of not impacting the kids what so ever. However, if we were to go straight to divorce/dissolution, then I would not let her free range to the house. It is not like I get free range to her apartment.
In the summer, she spoke of having the kids. Again, not sure if she meant at "our" house or her apartment. But if we were divorced, it definitely would not be my house. There are consequences for her decisions. This should be as if she was single and living by herself. As if we were divorced.
Is this fair to discuss with her. Lay down the expectations of this separation. I think she is trying to cake eat and save face to the children. What is your thoughts, AnotherStander and Sandi?
