So this will be my 100th post. I have another question on what I should be doing in the interim. She wants to move out. She can't until April 1st (at the earliest). She is still using my credit card to do things such as buy groceries (for her consumption and children's consumption). She has used it to take my son out to eat when I went to the father-daughter dance this past weekend.
Should I start the moving on from the M and ask her to give me the credit cards that are in my name (she is an authorized) user and say that I will be buying the groceries that are needed for the children and me for the rest of the month. She can use her money and her credit card to purchase her separate items. Or should I just wait until April to have that discussion.
I am trying to show her that I am moving on with life with or without her to include the separation. I don't want to appear as "punishing" her but she has decided to move out. She is making preparation to move out. I am just trying to figure out when I should do this. I have been reading a lot of Sandi's Reflections and other WW posts. Still learning to get the balls back as she says!
HAPPY 100th post to ME!!! Wish I wasn't here but the help from here and my BIL has been invaluable. Just trying to implement a lot of the stuff is the tricky part.
AnthonyA, this is my first time commenting on your sitch but I’ve been following it some.
Have you spoken to a lawyer yet? I would be concerned about her having access to all the credit cards. I’ve never been through a legal separation but I imagine that there could be a temporary child support order set up for your kids. Someone can correct me if I’m wrong. I also know that varies depending on where you live.
However, yes if she wants to live like she’s single then she has to accept all that comes with that.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
