Ok, so yesterday was a little different. The W had a long day at work (had a field trip for her after school program) so she had told me that she would go straight from work to her exercise class and would be home until after. This is normally a 8PM arrival time. To put matters worse, both my daughters were sick yesterday so I had to come home and work to be there for them.
So I work my normal work day and get off at 3:30PM. I took out some things to the compost outside and was starting to clean up the dishes that need hand washed and the stacked dishes to be loaded in dishwasher. I also got some chicken out to put in salt water. I let the dishes soak in water and decided since it was not too bad (for Ohio weather) to go for a run. So I ended up running over 2 miles at 6:38 per mile pace.
Anyways, I get done running on the lane that I live on and went back inside and I was sweating. So I took off my shirt and was just in my shorts and was listening to an audio book. I didn't notice anything to include that the otehr car was in the garage when I got done running.
Anyways, I am just hand washing dishes and notice wife come down the stairs. I just keep doing my thing. She eventually asks me a couple questions that I answer in short replies. She said she was about to leave to go to grocery store before her exercise and asked if I needed anything. I said nope. She said ok, and she was leaving. I just said alright and drive safe and back to finishing the dishes. I then started preparing the chicken and potatoes for the kids and me to eat for dinner. She had left but then came back. I just did my thing.
I am trying to move on as if she is moving out and what I will need to do to keep the house up and kids functioning. So that is what I did. I fed the kiddos, had them take their showers, and then I relaxed. She came home and fixed heated herself up one of the chickens and whatever else she was eating and went to her bedroom. I stayed downstairs and red some things and just relaxed. I then got the kids to brush their teeth and got them to go to bed. That is the only time she came out to just say goodnight to them. I went into my bedroom and worked out some more (planks and push ups) and then I read the DB book until I was getting tired and went to bed.
What I am trying to do is do most of the stuff around the house. Not to kiss her ass or pursue, plead, etc. I am doing it since she will be moving out here soon and I need to pick up the double parenting duties and get used to them now. We used to be a team and help each other out. I like having the kitchen counter clean and not a lot of clutter. She likes to stack things up and eventually clean it up. I have never complained about. But since I will be the head of household alone, I can keep it the way I want when she moves out or start now to show I am moving on with or without her.
Detaching is hard but I am trying to focus on myself. I wish there was a hypnosis that I could do to detach easier. I will be going to the marriage counseling appointment today. I switched it to an individual appointment instead. I did tell the W that I did that. Not to pursue or anything. It was to let her know that I would be talking to this counselor one on one about me. This way in case we ever did R and use this counselor, she wouldn't be surprised if I had talked to her already.
She got mad that I didn't cancel it. I told her I was going and if she wanted to go, that is up to her. She says that maybe I should go myself. I just said, that is fine, I was planning on going by myself to talk to her. Do what she needs or wants to do. She responded with another message about trying to explain why she wouldn't be there. I just never responded since no question was asked.
